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Conor Oberst Is Facing Rape Allegation

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Conor Oberst is into some sort of trouble and it is quite weird to report about it, because it could be totally BS, but since he is now taking some legal action, it is serious business!

A few weeks ago, the website xojane, which cheesily defines itself as a place ‘where women go when they are being selfish and where their selfishness is applauded’, had an article by a woman who had been in an abusive relationship with a rock star. Nobody really paid attention to this musician but the comment section attracted everyone’s attention. Another women left these following three comments, which were reposted and re-tumblr-ed ad nausea. Of course, don’t even bother looking at the comments of the article, they are now all gone, but this is what she posted:

‘I was raped by a “rock star” myself. I was 16 years old, he was in his 20s. No one believed me (he wasn’t even that famous then). No one believed me because I had been his biggest fan for several years at that point, his pictures covered my locker, etc. I guess when I made the accusation, everyone thought it was some sick & twisted way to get… I don’t know, closer to him? My own mother didn’t believe me until recently and it’s 10 years later now. This guy is the poster boy for what was known as “emo” back in the day, everyone thinks he’s so sweet and sensitive and sad, that he could never be the vicious monster he was that night. It makes me sick. I want to out him so bad. Every time I hear his name, I want to tell people what he did. I think people deserve to know. But due to how shit went down with my own friends & family at the time of the assault, the backlash terrifies me. It hurts to constantly see the way people fawn over him as if he’s a God. It’s really hard dealing with your attacker being famous or popular when you know the truth about them but feel no one will listen. Anyway, I am so sorry that this happened to you but so glad you finally got out.’

 ‘I am not the author but as I said in a previous comment, I was raped by a “rock star” when I was 16 years old and he was in his 20s. My husband suggests I may feel some empowerment by outing my rapist. It was Conor Oberst of Bright Eyes (and several other bands/side projects he fronts, bright eyes being the most popular). I hope you are right about helping the next girl but I’m waiting for the backlash. Thanks for the courage, even if you weren’t directing it at me.’

‘Thank you, love. It was especially traumatizing because the way I became to know him is because his older brother was my 7th & 8th grade english teacher. His older brother is an amazing guy, a total sweetheart who helped me through some awful, awful times in my early teen years. He continued to be sort of a big brother mentor type to me throughout high school. I became a huge fan of Conor’s music and for my 16th birthday, Bright Eyes was playing a local show and my old english teacher (Conor’s brother) arranged for me to go and meet Conor after the show as a birthday present of sorts. Conor definitely took advantage of my teenage crush on him. At first, I was flattered when he was playing with my hair and had his hand on my leg. It was like my dream come true at that point. But then he clearly wanted to go further and I made it very clear and told him I was a virgin and wasn’t prepared to change that right then but he didn’t stop. It was a really fucked up way to realize that people you idolize and look up to so much can be shitty, terrible people. I lost touch with my old english teacher shortly after that incident because of what happened. I didn’t feel comfortable telling him what his brother had done to me and wasn’t confident that he would even believe me anyway. Conor took a lot from me including my virginity, my dignity and self esteem but also the only “father figure” and man I had ever really fully trusted I regret not telling his brother about it now that I’m older because when I look back on things, in hindsight I can see that his brother kind of thought he was a jerk and wasn’t very fond of him and he probably would’ve believed me and been a supportive adult for me to lean on in that situation.’

These are serious accusations, and the woman posted these three long posts with very detailed descriptions of what allegedly happened, she is even involving Conor Oberst’s brother, so that doesn’t look like something she is making at the top of her head, and older brother Matthew Oberst Jr. is effectively a teacher (and part-time musician). That said, what does it mean? Nothing, it could all be made-up after a 5-minute search of the world wide web. The brother story could be true, otherwise Matthew Oberst could easily deny it, but honestly, what kind of teacher brings one of her student backstage to meet his brother-rock-star? Matthew, just speak up! The rest (what happened after the show) could just be the fantasy of a deranged fan with too much imagination?

The girl got even the nerves to start a Tumblr – which I have to admit gives her some credibility or some guts – answering to people asking questions. She explained that she deleted her comments because people were able to track her Facebook page and she was scared for her safety, saying things like:

 ‘Look, I didn’t intend for any of this to happen. I was a somewhat regular commenter on xojane and felt safe there. Call it dumb, naive, etc but when I hit that post button, I did not think my comment would be anything more than an exchange with one or two other commenters sharing their stories. Was I stupid to think that making an accusation about Conor like this was just going to remain some blip in the comment section of a feminist website? Obviously. But I didn’t realize that Conor was still *that* popular, to be honest. I guess I felt too safe in that community. I had no intention for this to be all over the place, I really did not. I am not looking for my 15 minutes of fame or to sue or to let anyone else make money off of this situation (though some are already trying), I am not looking for anything. I am not trying to ruin this man (and that isn’t going to happen regardless). All I was looking for when I made the comment with my story was support from the ladies on that forum that I felt safe opening up to. But now this has been spread all over everywhere and I feel like I need to speak up for the facts, for my character and for my intent (or lack there of).’

Since she has deleted the Tumblr, once again, but its web cache persists for a while.

What could I add to this disastrous attempt to ruin Oberst’s career despite what she says? Should I even be writing about it? Chances are that numerous music blogs are already posting about this story, so my post will not really change anything. Of course Oberst’s camp has responded with this statement:

‘Usually we wouldn’t feel the urge to comment on spurious blog chatter but the recent allegations made about Conor Oberst by an anonymous commenter on the xoJane website are flagrant enough to demand our response. This individual’s accusations are absolutely, unequivocally false. Unfortunately, the internet allows for groundless statements like this to travel the world before the truth has any time to surface. This is a particularly serious and sickening allegation and there is no truth to it. Conor has nothing but abhorrence for the perpetrators of such crimes of sexual violence. The behavior attributed to him by this individual is in direct opposition to his principles. Conor is consulting with a libel attorney regarding this matter.’

Conor Oberst could have chosen to totally ignore the story which allegedly happened in 2003, but he chose the defensive method, very probably because everyone is talking about it, but does this even make a difference? No because guilty people always deny. What if there was some truth into this? Should I smash all my Bright Eyes CDs? But wait before turning the Bright Eyes frontman into the next Chris Brown! We don’t know if anything of this is true! The problem is that there is one really bad guy in the story and it could go either way.

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