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On Loss And Music

Some days, it seems you have an appointment with death, not your own dying but mortality in general, with the big M, and the big slash in your face that makes you ‘realize, that everyone you know someday will die?’ The Flaming Lips sing this banality with so much conviction that evidence has never embodied a more truthful reality. There may be no hope for something else than just this life but their song tell us to enjoy it before it’s over with this explosive optimistic chorus.

I don’t know why some songs are comforting when the news are not good, how anything be comforting when you realize (again) we are all living one foot in the grave?

‘And then I realized I was out of mayonnaise, well, you be livin' one foot in the grave, yeah, don't go throwin' no coupons on my grave, don't go carvin' no happy face on my tombstone’ … Sure you can make fun of death as Beck does, it is one way to deal with it, or you can revolt and scream it like David Byrne ‘And if our cells are our destiny, I want to be free of biology’, but death is everywhere, unavoidable and part of life.

So I would like to think that ‘death will give us back to God, just like the setting sun is returned to the lonesome ocean’ as Bright Eyes says and have this wonderful happy perspective about death, or even think that ‘this monkey’s gone to heaven’,… I should ask The Pixies about it even because this sentence has never made any sense for me.
I just believe in Built to Spill, since I know that ‘no one gets away, cause no one's gone’ and also in Cat Power, because she sings ‘time is the great healer’, and this is very true.

But right now it’s all about this ‘you'd better give me something to fill the hole’ feeling, that Mr E of the Eels knows so much about.

Oh and I should have listened to The Shins, because ‘caring is creepy’,… but who would we be if we would not care…. My 17 year old cat died on Tuesday and I miss her.


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