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Gays In Pop: It’s Not Fair -by Iman Lababedi

So what’s this sudden obsession with gay rock stars?” Helen asked me after I’d requested a homosexual slant to her Rocky Horror review.

Good question.

I don’t like injustice – I like fairness, some form of level playing field in life.

And I am misanthropic but I want to hate people for specific reasons.

I don’t want to hate people because of
A) their gender
B) their nationality
C) their religion
D) their sexual preference
E) their politics
F) their skin pigmentation

I want to hate people on my own terms: because they are scum bags.

So, anyway, it goes against my sense of hatred to hate, or discriminate, or belittle, or hurt somebody because they are gay.

I want them to enjoy the same hellacious society I am a dissenting member of.

And theoretically that is what I have in the music business but in practise I feel uneasy about it. Something in me feels that gay musicians are being discriminated against. In some places, Kenny Chesney may or may not be gay, but if he came out as a homosexual his career would be over. And in some places much less obviously.

I remember in the mid-80s being invited to a concert with three bands, if memory serves it was the Buzzcocks, the Bush Tetras and the Bongos, and it was an in-joke, all three bands had lead members who were gay but not really out.

You could do the same today I’m guessing.

It just seems as if for every member of vampire weekend who is out there are a 100 still closeted and I don’t know why.

I have a similar but different problem with feminism. My friend Simone considers herself a feminist and rails against the constant sexual harassment she suffers in NYC. Every man is a potential threat, every wolf whistle an alarm call.

I recently mentioned how Emma Campesinos felt threatened by a male fan who told her as she unpacked her guitar on stage that, the back to her natural color brunette, looked better with blonde hair.  Emma wrote that she didn’t plan to change her hair color to satisfy the fan’s masturbatory fantasy’s.

Harsh words, but unfair?

My girlfriend Cyn is very attractive and a big time business person AND SHE HAS TO PUT HER SUBORDINATES IN LINE OVER THEIR WANDERING EYES… How is that possible. She could fire these guys and they still can’t control themselves.

I feel the feminist fight is over but am I wrong? When MIA spits at a photographer and later claims he was taking pictures up her skirt, where is the safety net.

And I feel we can all agree that homosexuality can be considered one part natural species birth control, one part social aberration, and nothing to worry about.
But can we?
If we can, why are the number of popular musicians who are declared homosexuals so low?

And that’s why I am writing about Gays In Rock.

It’s not fair and I want to understand why it’s happening.

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