In the world of pop music, indeed in the world of popular culture, three words have a life outside their being. They are harbingers of violence, fully loaded and ready to shoot you the fuck up. But it is time we got over them. Take a look.
1. The "C" word: You can't call a woman a fucking cunt. You can tell a woman you want to eat her hot cunt. If she lets you. I have no idea why this word is so loaded. If you can call a man a dick…? This word is so omerta, even Tyler, the Creator doesn't use it. I saw "The Vagina Monologues" where it was suggested the word be saved. It should indeed. The sound is harsh and soft at the same time.
2. The "F" word. The problem with "faggot" is it has been used so often as a prelude to violence against gays that it is difficult to interprete otherwise. In fact, it is ubiquitious as a synonyme for pussy, or is you prefer, effemante, and here is a question: since crossdressers and transvestites and men who enjoy beining sexually penetrated are a part of the gay minority, it makes sense as a synonyme for pussy.
Look at it this way:
a) Women are physically weaker as a sex then men.
b) Gay men are seen as having similar qualities as women
ergo
c) Gay men are seen as being physically weaker then straight men.
Therefore, when a straight man calls another man faggot, he is either
a) being intimating
or
b) questioning the man's strength.
If it is b, it is no more or less anti-Gay then calling a a man a pussy.
3. The "N" Word – "Nigger" is unsaveable, but what about "Nigga". When Jay-Z sings "Jigga, My Nigga" what he is understood to be saying is "Jigga is da man". The word has enetered the mainstream but blacks want to keep it verbotim. It is not perceived as a racial slam and it isn't a racial slam. Once hip hop crossed over to a white audience, the word crossed over with it. To consider it a fighting offense is silly, and to see a member of the Ku Klux Clan spitting out N—er as being the same as a teenage boy singing aalong to "Nigga", is ridiculous.
We live in a world with zero nuance… and we should accept nuance in language.