Ryan Adams Is Apologizing For The Harm He Has Caused
The career of singer-songwriter Ryan Adams literally stopped in February 2019, when a certain New York Times exposé revealed that several women were accusing him of sexual misconduct. His wife Mandy Moore was accusing him of emotional abuse and other women (including rising star Phoebe Bridgers) was blaming him for dangling career opportunities in return for sex. There also were allegations he was communicating with a minor in an inappropriate manner, but we never learned what the FBI investigation found that followed. One thing is certain, Adams was never charged with anything, or we would have known about it. Adams has always disputed the accuracy of the reporting and denied having any sexual communications with a minor.
More than a year later, he has exclusively shared a letter of apologies with DailyMailUK. Why an English paper you may ask? It may have something to do with his previous and nasty experience with US news outlets? It’s interesting he didn’t turn to Pitchfork, Spin or Rolling Stone to publicly apologize, I mean the Daily Mail is not the best PR move but he may have tried elsewhere and go rejected?
This is what Ryan Adams wrote:
‘There are no words to express how bad I feel about the ways I’ve mistreated people throughout my life and career.
All I can say is that I’m sorry. It’s that simple. This period of isolation and reflection made me realize that I needed to make significant changes in my life.
I’ve gotten past the point where I would be apologizing just for the sake of being let off the hook and I know full well that any apology from me probably won’t be accepted by those I’ve hurt.
I get that and I also understand that there’s no going back.
To a lot of people, this will just seem like the same empty bull***t apology that I’ve always used when I was called out, and all I can say is, this time it is different.
Having truly realized the harm that I’ve caused, it wrecked me, and I’m still reeling from the ripples of devastating effects that my actions triggered.
There is no way to convince people that this time is truly different, but this is the albatross that I deserve to carry with me as a result of my actions.
Realizing the consequences of my actions, I took a hard look inwards and sought to find the truth behind them. What pain was I carrying myself that was so poorly and wrongly being projected onto others?
I made a promise to myself that no matter what it took, I would get to the root of these issues and finally start to fix myself so I could be a better friend, a better partner, and a better man overall.
That being said, no amount of growth will ever take away the suffering I had caused. I will never be off the hook and I am fully accountable for my harmful behavior, and will be for my actions moving forward.
In my effort to be a better man, I have fought to get sober, but this time I’m doing it with professional help. Sobriety is a priority in my life, and so is my mental health. These, as I’m learning, go hand in hand.
But I will not bore anyone with stories of my demons or use them to excuse what I’ve done. I really want to express that I’ve internalized the importance of self-care and self-work. I’m really trying.
Music is how I lay my soul bare, and in working through this, I have written enough music to fill half a dozen albums.
Some of these songs are angry, many are sad but most of them are about the lessons I’ve learned over the last few years. Those ones an expression of my deepest remorse.
I hope that the people I’ve hurt will heal. And I hope that they will find a way to forgive me.’
He is sober, he is regretful, he is acknowledging he has hurt people and he has written a lot of songs about the experience. He sounds sincere, but of course, he is well aware it will be difficult for others to believe and trust him. At this point, it’s a lose-lose situation, if he never apologizes, people are gonna be resentful and say he is not able to admit his bad behavior, and if he does apologize, people are gonna say he is not sincere and just wants his career back
But Ryan Adams is apologizing, he is testing the water, we now have to see if people are willing to give him another chance, and I am not only talking about his fans but about concert promoters, musicians and other music industry people. This new website seems to show that Adams is ready to relaunch his career, Will this be enough?