Frances Cobain Not Amused By Lana Del Rey's Suicidal Glam Fantasy
How did romanticizing death become so cool? It has been the case for a long time, at least since there is literature and human history, from Greek tragedies to 18th century Goethe’s Werther, to 20th century’s club of 27 (rock stars who died at 27, Brian Jones, Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison, and Kurt Cobain). The idea is barely new or original, and Lana Del Rey automatically adopted the concept, because it is fitting so well with her façade of depraved poster-girl for the slutwave-sadcore who flirts with death. So her ‘I wish I was dead already’ didn’t get unnoticed, especially by Frances Bean Cobain, Kurt’s daughter.
Frances doesn’t show up very often in the public life, she put some rightful distance between her and her crazy mother, she lives like a recluse and she didn’t even show up at this Nirvana’s induction into the Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame. However, she occasionally tweets and she did send this series of tweets to Lana, before deleting them shortly after.
‘@LanaDelRey the death of young musicians isn’t something to romanticize….’
‘I’ll never know my father because he died young & it becomes a desirable feat because ppl like u think it’s ’cool.’
‘Well, it’s fucking not. Embrace life, because u only get one life. The ppl u mentioned wasted that life. Don’t be 1 of those ppl ur too talented to waste it away. Don’t be 1 of those ppl’
And also this, because she was criticized or even attacked by Del Rey’s fans:
‘I told her to not waste her life. How is that attacking. I literally said embrace this life because u only get 1’
‘I’m not attacking anyone. I have no animosity towards Lana, I was just trying to put things in perspective from personal experience.’
If there is one person on earth who can speak about Kurt Cobain’s death and its consequences, it is Frances so she was absolutely right to intervene into the cheap exploitation of her father’s death. Even if Lana Del Rey is terribly depressed – and I think she isn’t as her whole image is almost too scientifically manufactured – she has no right to use Cobain or anyone’s tragic death for her ascension to the top. It is disgusting and truly unhealthy. This woman has some influence whether she wants it or not, and who knows what she could inspire to these millions of devoted fans ? After all, several articles did blame Peaches Geldof’s death on Elliott Smith’s death because she believed he committed suicide,… so rock stars do have an impact.
Lana responded to Frances’ last tweet, with some vague and contradictory statements: ‘It’s all good. He was asking me a lot a out your dad I said I liked him because he was talented not because he died young…the other half of what I said wasn’t really related to the people he mentioned/ I don’t find that part of music glam either.’
Really? So why are you talking about it? Suicide is not a fantasy, it’s ugly, extremely sad, and devastating. She has no right to say, ‘I was, you know, a mess, I totally wanted to kill myself every day’, if it is not true! Since the beginning, she has blurred the lines between her life and her videos, reinventing her life at each interview, so it is difficult to take anything she says seriously.
We are the lucky ones, the ones who are alive, fantasizing about death if you are not totally depressed is not cool and Lana Del Rey is not fooling me. Titus Andronicus’ Amy Klein once wrote a whole piece entitled ‘The Problem with Lana Del Rey’ (which has now disappeared but was saved elsewhere) and this excerpt gives you the tone:
‘Lana Del Ray has conquered America with plastic surgery, video games, a regression to nostalgia, and an appeal to the sex drive of every male music critic on the planet. It doesn’t matter if she has anything real to sell because Lana Del Ray has made us think about the relationship between selling fantasy and selling lies.’
I totally agree, she is selling us the lie of her death wish because, contrarily to what she said to Frances (another lie), that part is always very glam unfortunately.