Chvrches’ Lauren Mayberry Lose the Plot Again
I might feel more sympathetic towards Lauren Mayberry if I could stomach her much loved band, the asininely named Chvrches, but two albums into their career, and I have found them astoundingly shrug worthy. Neither of their big hits, “The Mother We Share” or “Recovery” , stuck with me. I didn’t dislike them . I don’t dislike them. I just don’t care one way or the other. Their current album Every Open Eye, was the definition of a sophomore effort.
1 – Over rated by the critics.
2 – The same as the first only worse.
3 – More or less, a complete stiff.
Though, I admit, I am being difficult to a degree, this is the band with the most unbearable lead singer on earth. Lauren’s ridiculous overreaction to trolls made me laugh out loud. Rock nyc’s Helen Bach gets them all the time, very nasty stuff, and she laughs in their faces or deletes them or fucks with em for the hell of it. I myself consider death threats the cost of doing business. Lauren had a meltdown.
So now, here is the story off Stereogum via Gigwise:
“We were arguing, again. Like most times it happened, I wasn’t quite sure why he was so upset. I had tried to placate him; I had tried to reason; I had tried to apologize, but nothing seemed to be having any impact other than making the situation worse. Then he backed me against a wall and slammed his hand repeatedly on the surface above my head. When I broke down in shock, he said, “Oh, don’t act like I hit you.” That moment was the final wake-up call I shouldn’t have needed.
“Things like this had happened before but to a lesser extent. He would pull me by my arms and wrists when he was frustrated and thought I wasn’t listening (and then say he was sorry). He would slam doors on me (and then apologize). He once grabbed at the steering wheel of my car when I was driving so we could pull over to “talk,” then shouted and beat his fists repeatedly on the dashboard when I didn’t stop the vehicle.
“At the time, it felt like things changed slowly, like I woke up one day in a relationship and a reality that I did not recognize, but I’m sure the signs were there the whole time. When we met, he seemed charming. He was smart, passionate, creative, and caring. But after the first few months, he became increasingly paranoid, insecure, jealous, and depressed. Everything became my fault. I was careless. I was stupid. I was selfish. I was not trustworthy. I was a weak person who would fail at anything she tried so I shouldn’t bother. He hated me, but then he loved me and I was the best person in the world — until I wasn’t anymore.”
Mayberry previously revealed that their new album dealt with former partners, when she said: “‘Leave a Trace’ is the middle finger mic-drop. It’s about that point where you’re like, “There’s no point having this conversation anyways: There will be no resolve, I won’t feel better about it, you won’t feel better about it, no outcome from this will actually change my reality.”
“It makes me feel better to write about that—I’ve done something constructive with it. You don’t put that on other people, you put that into what you do. That’s always the way I’ve written lyrics. My ex-partners are not friends with me, but I’m OK with that.”
Here is an assumption, he was dating a sweet young girl who became a popstar and he couldn’t handle it and lost the plot so she left him. Look, if that is abusive, I’ve had girls leave me simply because I went down in the pecking order, because I lost a job, because they dated upward, because they were sick of me. I once went to a girlfriends surprise birthday party only to find her coming in with a new boyfriend. People suck, get over it.
People abuse each other, smart people, popstar Lauren, leave the relationship without outing the guy for being what he obviously wasn’t. People are different, I’ve known timid girls and what is nothing to me, shouting for instance, is abusive to them. We live in a strange world, a PC nightmare where if self-expression is threatening, it is wrong. Look, if you don’t like a guy, bottle him. If he hits you, have him arrested and if you are in an abusive relationship, for fucks sake don’t listen to this idiot.